What can I say about this event? Some of it was a bust: two of the men didn't show up...remember, each person was assigned an ingredient. Of all the nerve...; the two that did show up where helpful in the kitchen...that was their best quality; and the dessert at the end where everyone got together was just crowded and strange. The upside was that the cooking together was fun and the food turned out really good; the weather was great so we could all enjoy dinner on the deck and the house was looking its finest, and; the women who showed up were really wonderful. Two of them I could see enjoying getting to know better down the road.
This is my big "aha" moment. When I looked around that room at the dessert, crowded with over 100 people, roughly a 50/50 ratio of men to women, I was thinking "there are some very sharp women here. Look successful, classy, fun to be with. Where are the men that fit that description? Where do really eligible, worthwhile men hang out?" I don't mean to be a snob. I know, at a glance, I wouldn't turn any heads, especially when there are really beautiful, available women in the room. So I should give some of these other men a chance, I guess. But even so, there are just not that many men that appear to be even an interesting opportunity out there. So where are the men hanging out? What do they do on a Saturday night? Are they sitting at home, drowning their loneliness? Are they living a fantasy life on Internet porn? Are they hanging out and drinking beer and playing pool in some dark tavern? When I go out with my girlfriends, it seems like all the other tables are filled with couples or other groups of women. Don't get me wrong: I love going out with my girlfriends. I'm just curious, with the numbers thing, there are an awful lot of single men unaccounted for. People encourage me to go on e-Harmony or Match.com. Is that really the only way to meet men? I liked the idea of this dinner thing, and I'd do it again. Small groups of men and women, getting to know each other, in a group setting, doing a fun activity. I am grateful that I am not of the persuasion that I must have a man in my life to be happy. Seeing as how I haven't figured out where the men worth having are hiding out, I feel badly for the women who are of that persuasion. And let me just finish with a rant about those men that didn't show up! How incredibly rude, selfish and uncivilized. I am going to raise my son to be better!