Only the Losers...

There is a so-and-so who is hell bent on being difficult to a good friend of mine. She has to deal with him (kids involved) so she doesn’t have the luxury of “no contact” like I do. It’s weird because he was the one that opted out of the relationship. Yet he can’t let well enough alone. There is one thing that he does in their interactions that is meant to push her buttons. And it does. It is a pretty big inconvenience. He’s an irritating, vengeful, mean so-and-so. I was thinking about this last night. Apparently in my dreams. Because I woke up with such an enlightening insight. I called my friend this morning to share it with her. I said I’d been thinking about this thing that this so-and-so is doing to irritate her: to make her life even more difficult than it already is. I said that what he’s doing takes tremendous pre-planning. That he surely must plan for several days to make sure that it’s all set up just so for her. That he must spend humongous amounts of energy to do this thing to get to her. That it’s pretty funny when you think about how much time and thought and energy he must be exerting to pull this off. And sure, now she can pretty much count on the set up being the same every time. That he will leave this thing as he has planned it so that she is inconvenienced. But just think of all that time he’s wasted during the week to pull this off. What a pathetic loser. That maybe we should start celebrating every time this set up is put in place because then we know how much wasted effort and energy this guy frizzles away on something that is such a big deal to him. It’s probably easier for me to smile about it than for her. Even though I’m angry that he puts such little value on her time and energies, I think it really shows how much even less value he has for his own life: just wasting it away on passive aggressive actions. What a loser. Thanks for the entertainment.